Practical tips for contacting:
The first mail flirt is certainly not the time to talk about all your problems with other singles.
Do not write anything about your last relationship or problems with other people. Neither of your divorce or your ex, or financial problems.
Please, no criticism!
Do not criticize in first messages, not the other person and, if possible, not your fellows, because this does not sell well.
No criticism of spelling or education, criticism is in any way is not what you should do.
Write about something you like or about something funny, that is much better and positive.
"Self-awareness and humor" is the next topic ..